My quest for the Perfect Mattress.

I need a new mattress. But of course being me, I can't just go down to Art Van or Mattress USA with their 5th going out of business sale this year and buy one. Been there, done that, three times in ten years and have the bad back to prove it.

I believe in all things natural and organic, but I also live on a budget like most moms, and sometimes have to sacrifice the luxury of an all-natural option because of price. But when it comes to my son, and the things that he comes into contact with the most, such as his clothing, cloth diapers, food, and bedding, I believe he deserves the benefit of healthy natural products. Currently I am in need of a new mattress for my queen size bed and while researching my options I have learned about the better alternatives to traditional crib mattresses as well. My son usually begins the night in his crib and then ends up getting in bed with me around midnight and spending the rest of the night with me. For some reason, ever since he started sleeping with me, I have awoken in the most miserable pain: he kicks a lot and moves around and I often find myself on my back or in very uncomfortable strange positions and wake up stiff and very sore. Partly because Caden has started nursing again and has turned into an all night champion nurser like a newborn baby and that means I can't curl up and get comfortable like I normally would sleep but rather I either lay on my back so he has access or sometimes on my side with him tucked next to me so he can nurse. But whatever the position I end up stiff and numb. Also, he sweats a lot and when he cuddles up with me we both wake up damp and sometimes even soaked. Also, being that he is only two, he still wears diapers and although I add a wool diaper cover and extra layers of protection to his night time diaper he does occasionally leak.

My current mattress cost over $1000 and is only 3 years old. It sags in the middle and on one side. It is lumpy and I have pressure pain and discomfort from the dips and uneven surface. And even with a mattress pad and feather bed over the surface I feel very uncomfortable with the thought of sleeping on a mattress that my son's diaper has leaked into. In short, it's shot and I'm looking to replace it with a healthy, natural, comfortable and affordable alternative.

I research everything I buy. Being a student and mom I cannot afford to be dissatisfied with a purchase, especially a major one such as a mattress. I read product reviews and manufacturer's information and shop around to compare prices and materials. I keep a record of this data and use it to make my final decision. After I purchase the product and use it for a while, keeping notes of my likes and dislikes about everything from the buying experience, to shipping and packaging quality, initial review of the item, and how well it works vs. expectations or previous experience, and overall opinion. Then I will publish all this on my blog. These product reviews simplify the shopping experience for you - other moms who's time is very valuable- and hopefully allow you to make an informed decision.

I must admit I can't help buy be drawn to the many $300 "memory foam" mattresses that supposedly arrive at your doorstep with free shipping in a small box and then expand into a queen size, luxurious foam mattress that promises a cloud-like sleeping experience comparable to one would get on the $4000 original. The only bad reviews I've read are a "slight chemical smell from the factory." Huh? What? What does that mean? I don't really like the sound of that! What kind of chemicals? Are they dangerous? Will they give me a headache or make my baby sick? What is memory foam anyways? And is the natural latex foam really better, or just a costly gimmick? With all the options, high density, visco elastic, talalay, open vs. closed cell technology, three layers of this, or two layers of 4lb 2 inch that.....? How on earth can I ever choose? I just want a good nights sleep on a healthy surface that will keep us dry and comfortable and last several years without cost a fortune! And if it were made of all natural materials it would be even better.

Speaking of all natural materials, why is one mattress better than other comparable natural mattresses? Some websites say wool is the best sleeping surface. Some saw natural latex is best. Others use coconut husks, horse hair, organic cotton or bamboo, and many other components. Many of the natural options still use the traditional innerspring mattresses, while some look more like a futon cushion: a giant pillow filled with wool fibers and box tufted to keep everything from shifting and bunching. It looks nice, but is it comfortable? Will it feel lumpy and bumpy? Will the wool fiber eventually compress down and matte together into hard clumps? And what is the best outer cover fabric? Should I look for something removable for washing, or should I purchase an additional mattress pad ($$$) that can be removed for washing in case of a spill or accident? And should I look for washable wool or the seemingly softer, loftier kind that needs to be dry cleaned.

The really nice organic mattresses are very expensive, and I need both a queen and crib mattress. I am considering the "futon-style" version for Caden's crib size mattress. I will be transitioning him into a toddler bed soon and I think we are going with a toddler daybed so he can sit on it and play or read like a couch as well as sleeping. But this is an expensive purchase and I want it to be an investment: if I have another baby in the next few years will the mattress be ok for a newborn? And will it hold up that long? If I spend this kind of money, I would hope I could use this for a couple more babies, over about 5-10 years.

As for myself, maybe I could get away with a compromise: I could get the cheap-o foam mattress and buy an additional organic wool mattress pad to go on top- like a pillow-top. Caden and I might still have the benefits of wool: climate and moisture control, softness and comfort. They are pretty pricey, ranging from about $140- $400 and up. There is the kind that looks like a fleece of a sheep (but of course isn't- it's just the fibers woven into a usually cotton backing) with straps at the corners to attach to your mattress. Or their is the kind that looks like a feather bed: a big pillow or cushion around 3-4 inches high filled with wool fiber fill and box quilted so it doesn't shift around, but not as big or firm as the previously mentioned futon mattresses.

Or I could go with the $2000 entry-level Organic Mattress and combine that with a $39 1 inch "memory foam" topper! Ha ha, I wonder what I would like better? Sleeping directly on wool or memory foam? Since I am buying online, the only way to find out is to make the purchase and so far it looks like most of the mattresses are non-returnable/refundable. I would love comments and opinions please! Do you sleep on a natural mattress or are you in the market for something new? Which way are you leaning? And what about for your little ones? Kids often end up sleeping on hand me down old mattresses which are broken down and probably full of dust mites, allergens and flame retardant chemicals. Crib mattresses are usually thin and hard yet flimsy at the same time and covered with plastic for waterproofing. Caden actually has a pretty decent one: it was about two or three down from the top of the line version at our local Babies R Us about 2 and a half years ago and cost about $150. The only thing I was educated about crib mattresses back then was the number of coils. I was told they must have at least 90 (I think, don't quote me on this please) and the more the merrier. I think Caden's has 240 and is reverse-able with a firmer side for newborns and slightly softer side for toddlers but I could never feel the difference. The thing seems incredibly hard to me, although I'm sure Caden has loosened it up with his constant jumping and bouncing when he was ready to get up!

So stay tuned while I continue my quest for the right mattress. I need to decide soon. My back can't take much more of this!